While flipping through the channels I caught a few minutes of Joyce Meyer saying that God doesn’t say if you obey me I will love you.

I think she missed a few verses.

John 14:23 KJV
Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.

Jesus also said in John 14:15-17 KJV
If ye love me, keep my commandments. [16] And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; [17] Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you.

What these verses show us is that God reciprocates love. If we love him and obey him, the Godhead will come and dwell in us.